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Leadership is about Potential (Not Mine!)

Up till yesterday evening, I had a defective model about what leadership at home should look like. Unknowingly, I have been behaving as if all my family members (especially my wife) is there to make me look good. My agenda and priorities must be the foundation of what makes this family tick - or at least, so I thought.

A honest heart-to-heart dinner conversation with my wife last evening revealed just how defective my leadership perspective has been!

Here's the real deal on leadership : it's not about me! Rather, it is about me serving the needs of those under my care and it developing them to rise up to their God-given potential. The irony is this : when I strive to make those under my care look good - then inevitably, I will also look good! But the starting point is always them, not me. Servanthood is about the greater serving the lesser - something so foreign in a culture where subordinate is expected to serve the superior. Yet, how am I going to see "fruits" in my family if the only type of investment is around I, me and myself? I must start to view myself from today onwards more as a GARDENER rather than a consumer, an INVESTER rather a spectator.

Yes, I am still the leader at home and my leadership is defined by the condition of those who are following me. What good is a leader when the needs of the followers are left in want?